Rejection

 

I was reading the 23^rd Chapter called “Overcoming Rejection” on September 14-15, 2022 of the book called “Emotionally Free” by Grant Mullen M.D and there was a lot that stood out to me.  I could see myself so much in this chapter, as well as my hubby and so many other hurting people.

Grant talked about how even when we are in the womb that we are sensitive to what is going on around us, so if the environment and the mother is tense, the fetus can take that on, and that would be even more so if the fetus is not wanted.

Grant mention that internal spiritual and emotional wounds can last the longest in a person’s life that are from the womb.  So if the parent is scared, anxious, doesn’t want the child, etc. the fetus will experience that, and can keep it with them as after they are born.

Likewise the fetus can also feel love, excitement, and joy, which can be internalized after the child is born.

I know there was a lot of stress and fear around me, even before I was born, and I still feel that today.

I can imagine children that weren’t wanted, would likely feel like garbage in a lot of ways, just being left outside to rot so to speak.  I really feel for them, as that would be a pain that would never go away.

This chapter talked about that after a child is born, a child can feel rejected for many different reasons, such as the mother or parents doesn’t bond with them, are busy, left alone, not accepted to name a few.

Parents can even do this unintentionally, such as always wanting a boy, or girl, but only getting the same gender they already have.

Another constant rejection to a child or adult is abuse, as it reminds them over and over the pain in their mind, that they aren’t good enough.

It really is such a hard place to be in, as if there is abuse in the family, or other relationships, all they want to do is be loved and accept by that person, but it becomes more confusing and painful for the person as nothing they do will make it okay.

It reminded me of something Grant said “The more cold and rigid a family is, the more Fear and Rejection the family member will experience and feel.”

Even though a child may want to be happy and send their love and feel it, the strictness and scariness of the family environment causes them to reject wanting to be who they are.

I find that there is such fear and rejection in me.  Though I know both my parents wanted me, being thrown into a war zone I imagine, made me want to keep rejecting myself, as I knew I had to be the quiet, compliant, “good girl” to stay safe.

Grant talked about how often these internalized rejection feelings that started as children or before, will carry on into adulthood.  This can bring about destructive behaviours of acting out, not wanting to be here, aggressive anger, not trusting anyone, needing to control everything and only to do what they want to do, and so much more.

It amazing how many people out there are reacting to these painful rejection wounds that keep coming up in their lives.  The thing is that the Enemy knows how to capitalize on it, as they plant deep core lies that makes the person believe that they are worthless, garbage, don’t have the right to be alive, or who they really are, and other negative things.

This really leaves these rejected emotional people in a hard spot of getting better in this life, as they experience these thoughts and feelings over and over again.

This chapter showed me that the only one that can bring about the healing from those rejection wounds and deep core lies is Elohim (God).  He wants us to be completely honest with Him of our brokenness and hurts.

He needs us to give all our tormenting thoughts, memories, wounds, sins and lies to Him.  Often we pickup so many untruths from the Enemy, and Elohim wants to show us His truth as to how He felt for us in those rejected moments and thoughts.

We need to forgive those that hurt us, and even ourselves and others, that we may have blamed for what went on.

  He wants to dispose those awful things, so that He can fill your thoughts with His love, peace, joy and acceptance instead.

So to the person that feels like garbage, worthless, not meant to be here.  He see’s beauty, life, and wonder in that person.  Elohim’s the only one that can really love you for who you are, as He’s the one that let you be conceived.  So remember you are a not a mistake and are always accepted by Him.

Patricia  <3   :)

 

Psalm 27:10     Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.

 

Here’s a song about there’s an anchor for my soul – that Yeshua (Jesus) has overcome and the victory has been won – there will be no more sorrow or pains – as you will rise with Him by your side even in your darkest times.

 

“I Will Rise” by Chris Tomlin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fa8w7mGug0c&list=PL3whQX319DaB37iB8NZpJe206iSdpe3kc&index=25