Pearce the Heart

  I was thinking to myself on March 25, 2017 that I know that a lot of people struggle with wanting to have control of their lives.   I’ve especially seen this with people that have had a difficult past.   When they can’t handle what has happened in their past, often they will end up trying to control everything in their life. I’ve been the type of person that wants to do everything on my own, when possible.   I’ve been better about my husband helping me with different things, but with others, not as much.   Sometimes I feel that it would be easier if I did a task by myself as then I wouldn’t have to explain what to do multiple times.   Yet other times I feel like I would be a burden on someone else if I asked another person for help. I think in those times it’s important to ask what is really behind the need to not want to ask for help.   I think one of the answers to that is ‘not trusting.’   If you are hanging on a ledge, many feet above th...

  On March 19, 2017 I was thinking I recently realized that if I want to help people change for the better, I need to change myself first.   I can’t ask someone to do something if I haven’t done it myself in the first place.   It made me think about the last few years of my teens. I had moved across the country to go to university, but I decided to move back into my parents place when I was 19 years old, when school didn’t work out.   I had originally planned on living with my parents for a short time until I found a place to rent, but as time went on I realized it was easier to live at home. I had moved out of my parents place when I was in my mid-teens as I felt I needed to be in control of my life.   My relationship with my dad back then was not ideal.   We didn’t get along with each other, and I knew for me to be happier I had to move out.   When I moved back in three years later, I was nervous about the living situation being the same again. ...

  I recently saw a short video clip on March 6, 2017 of a woman that was considered to have the perfect body type at one point in her life.   Prior to that, she said that she would look at herself in the mirror and say that she was “fat, disgusting, ugly, etc.”   Even though she was an average size and weight for a woman, she still believed these negative things about herself. She decided that she was going to do something about it.   She decided to work out more, build more muscle and eat better.   Eventually she decided to compete in a body builder competition.   They told her that she had the perfect body.   After all that she ended up admitting later that she still saw and believed those negative things she said about herself before. She decided to get away from the perfect body mindset and to accept herself and her body for how it was.   I think it’s very important for those out there that decide to over-exercise, restrict what you eat, o...