Meeting my future husband part 1

 


On May 23, 2016 at this point I’m sure that there are some of you who have been reading my blog that want to know more about my hubby who I’ve mentioned in previous posts.  I’ve decided to let you hear about how I first met him.

Back in October 2013 I hadn't dated in 5 years and 8 months and the last guy I had dated previously wasn't the greatest.  I told God awhile ago that when I felt ready - which I had a few months before then - the next guy I date I want to be ‘the one.’ I didn't want to date a bunch of guys and not have it work out. It knew it wouldn't be good for me. So I decided to look into online dating in August 2013 and the first site I found was Christian Mingle, but when I found out that it would cost money I decided not to go with it. I tried a free one, but I didn't find that many nice guys.

My best friend met her husband online and she was the one who suggested online dating to me.  I went and saw my best friend in the first week of October and when she asked me how the online dating was going I mentioned to her I hadn’t tried it for awhile and the one I had tried was free.   She said to me it might be worth paying for online dating even for just a short time. I thought maybe that would be a good idea.

I had been so not for online dating as there is a lot of trust you have to put out there, and that made me nervous, but I sensed when I first went on Christian Mingle in August I was supposed to meet the right guy there. So it's not a coincidence that I would end up back on the site again and this time paying for it in October. I ended up messaging a few guys and out of those guys I connected with two of them.  One was Spanish, but he was a bit pushy, asking for my picture, name and more information about me right off the bat.

I decided to not put my picture up in my profile as I felt that would be safer. The other guy was learning to become a naturopathic doctor and he seemed pretty nice. At one point he asked me what I wanted in a guy. I said I wanted a guy to bring the best out of me, not the worst. Even though it had only been a few days, I didn't want to lead one of them on for too long. My mom suggested I pray about it, as I was torn. That's when I felt God ask me which one brings out the best in me. I realized right away the student doctor did.  The Spanish guy didn't bring the worst out of me, but he didn’t make me feel any better. I told the Spanish guy it wasn’t going to work out, and I let the student doctor know I only wanted to connect with him.

I seriously couldn’t believe at only 6 days after paying for the site how truly amazing it had been connecting with this lovely man Nathan.  I truly believed he was the one, and the awesome thing was so did he. He told me when he first got my original message that if it was left up to him he likely wouldn't have messaged me back. God told him audibly that if he didn’t reply it would have been the biggest mistake of his life.

Before he met me he actually hadn’t dated anyone before.  He had wanted to only date one person, one time, and marry that one woman.  When I heard that I nearly cried happy tears, as I realized at the time I might become that one woman.  The other awesome thing was that I realized unknowingly we were praying for the same thing for our future spouse and didn’t know it.  The super cute thing Nathan said to me was how he's new to this and feels blind going into this. I told him I am too as it had been a while since I last dated. So it was the blind leading the blind, which made me think it (unlike the scripture verse) was a fun place to begin. 

I really believe that when you put it in God’s hands to choose the spouse for you, He will choose the best one for you.

Look for part 2 of how I met my future husband in person!

Patricia <3 J

 

Psalm 37:5    Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.

 

Here’s a good song about that everyone has a story to tell, as well as everyone has a wound to heal and that there is beauty in that, as it can be so hard to keep holding on.  That it causes you to not be able to let go or move on.  And you just want to believe that there is meaning there.  And you cry out so many times to God to take this.  And some how He gives us the strength to just keep breathing and oh how much we need God now.

That we don’t know how we got where we are, but we are still trying to listen to that still small voice over the Noise.

 

“Need You Now (How Many Times)” by Plumb

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ylnx0NA9X4&list=PL3whQX319DaB37iB8NZpJe206iSdpe3kc&index=137

 

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